our views are so different --some private letters

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dear john,

yes, i want to share my views and opinions with you all along. but many times i doubt if they are right. im just such a common and humble chinese. of course, i feel so delighted that china is a beautiful country which makes you be charmed. however, im also afraid china itself is as good as you imagined. therere still a lot of poor people and places.

of course, i understand a little about current situationeconomical crisis in usa from the reports of TV or other medias. but we cant deny the usa is still the most developed country with the most advanced technologies. i have watched the super products demonstrations of the amway (from usa) company. they look so magical and wonderful! such as the amway cookers, dishwashing detergent,etc. oh, if my english is not a barrier, ill express myself to you how i feel these products from usa vividly. they are too developed and pro-environmental. (of course, a set of amway cookers is too expensive, worth almost 1000 dollar. most of chinese cant afford it yet.)

oh, as i have told you before, im always interested in MLM culture and system. i love MLM culture, it is because of MLM that i have the great chance to see the first-class patented products around the world and keep in touch the warm and enthusiastic chinese persons.

ive ever written a poem, one of whose sentence is ????????????????. oh, i dont know how i should translate it into english properly. from the surface, you can translate " the tiny, tiny, common chinese people starts to have a big, big ,wonderful chance/opportunity to dream of embracing and entering the whole world. because the arrival of MLM culture and system, the economical globalization is happening. it means every common, even poor chinese people can be engaged in the foreign trading, i.e. selling our products to foreign countries very easily and freely. at the same time, the foreign people can also sell their products to china directly.

especially for me, i need the MLM chance so much. because if i can speak english well, i can have gotten the high-salary job earlier. ill be not so poor as now. in china, just a few people have a good command of english, because therere a great difference between english language/culture and chinese language/culture. its also the reason the china is in great need of english teacher. although i want to tell you what the traditional chinese culture is, im afraid i have not this ability. oh, maybe we can say the chinese people often pay attention to their own families very much. (the asian women are often educated to be meek, passive) carrying the family line is especially important. and most of traditional chinese look down on the business, they admire officials with the political power and scholars (just as well-educated, learned person as you) so, you see, youll be very popular and welcome in china i assure.

of course, in south china, influenced by developed western countries including usa deeply, the business culture prevails. the amway (chinese branch) office just lies in guangzhou city, the south china. so it is said a few chinese big cities are as developed and prosperous as the big cities of usa.



just watch the vedios i selected for you below,ok? please browse the general appearence of south china.

http://v.youku.com/v_show/id_XMTA0NDQ5MDYw.html

http://v.youku.com/v_show/id_XNzI2MjIzNDA=.html

(theyre also the vedios from winalite company i referred to you before.)

best wishes!

yours sincerely

jingfang





dear jingfang,

you dont ever have to worry about whether your views are right or not, they are your views. there is no right or wrong, it is how you see things. that is freedom of the mind and it is the most important freedom there is. that is why when one government tries to take control of a country, the first thing they try to control is the media. they start to tell stories in a way to get people to think a certain way. that is happening here in the usa right now. when george bush was president, the media would have a story on him every day showing a mistake he made, now that barack obama is president, the media doesnt say anything about him, though he has made numerous mistakes. but i am not going into that right now. we will share our views together.

what i want to do, by making your express your views, is to make you start to think like an american does. if you want to learn the language, and get into the american MLM, then you should also start to think like an american. to americans, personal opinions are important. the fact that you can speak your mind, state your view, have your own thoughts - ones that dont necessarily agree with others - are what seperates each person from the other. if the people who started amway didnt think for themself, they would have stayed in the business they were in and amway would never have started. also, if people didnt have their own opinions, ones that dont agree with the way the business is run, then the business would stop growing. a business needs to change with the times and the only way to do that is to speak up or listen to different opinions. the buddhists will tell you, the only thing that stays the same is that things change. so by you telling me what you think, you are taking steps to help you reach your goal.

i watched the videos. i have seen news stories about shanghai and beijing. they are truly beautiful, but i am a man who likes simple. i would love to see the mogao caves and lhasa or bhutan. dont get me wrong, i would live near a city, but would stay towards the outer parts so that i can go to the country easily.

you mention the amway cookers for $1000. most americans cant afford that. the majority of americans look for cheap prices every day because they struggle to pay their bills and cant afford the extravagant things like that. please dont let amway make you think that people run out to buy their products, they dont. most americans see amway and they dont care for them. they ha

ve gotten a reputation of taking advantage of people. the people who get rich with amway or herbalife or any other MLM are the ones who are at the top, who get the people to join, because they get a percentage of the profit from their sales, so if you have 100 people under you, you make money by them working. also, if they get people to join, then you both make money from them. for this reason, many of their products are overpriced.


i understand the way the chinese woman is raised and taught to be passive, quiet, and obedient. i also understand the importance of the family. i believe that this is part of what i admire about china. not that i am interested in a person who will do what i say, because i would much rather be with a woman who has her own mind, but that i am passive, quiet, and obedient. i find most american women to be too loud, aggressive, demanding, and most of all, they are out for themself and dont care if you kill yourself trying to please them. i would love to find a woman who i can be myself with and she be herself, and we both be of the same personality.

i will go now, i think i have gone on too long. take care and remember, your views are never wrong.

love,

john



dear john,

its the first time that i find our views are so different. i understand its caused by the different backgrounds and experiences. you said you love to see the mogao caves or lhasa,etc. pitifully i dont like them. i always dream of owning a wealthy life which you have gone through before. and i have no marriage life and children. i dont also pay attention to so-called family.

because im always single, i need the MLM big family very much. i feel that most of americans misunderstand the MLM industry just like most of chinese people. it seems the MLM is an unpopular thing around the world. on the other hand, its peculiarly sought after by minority around the world including me.

i have no ability to tell you the advantage and substance of MLM in english, even in my mother language chinese, i also fail to explain what the MLM is in my head to others. all in all, theres a beautiful and unparalleled dream in my heart waiting for me to realize. just like you, theres a buddistical world in your heart. we just live in respective "religious beliefs".

yes, im trying to take steps to reach my goal silently. of course, now the time is not right yet. i still need be patient! so i cant share my views with you too much.

i just want to tell you i cherish your friendship very,very much. youre a kindhearted, mild person, delighted in sacrifice for your family. yes, youre a father, you should stay with your children, looking after them.

take care

yours sincerely

jingfang

dear john,

oh, suddenly i feel so upset for my last email to you. if theres something which makes you unhappy or angry, please pondon me as possible as you can.

because i care for you so much. your friendship is my most precious treasure in this world. its a pity i havent t

he ability to expand on my unique views about MLM, and let you understand my real thought in the bottom of my heart.


because i have told you its not a ripe time now. and if everything is ok, ill make you know what the exact situation of the winalite company(www.winalite.com) is. after all, the facts always speak louder than words.

and i must thank you for your trying to teach me how to think like an american. and i think i can understand you well. the buddhism art is beautiful, peaceful. but we also need the passionate life,ok? i think, the reason you hold a pessimistic view about the usa political situation is you havent seen the direction of the bright future and the trends of our times.( in some sencse, the country is also like a big family.)

i know youre an enthusiastic person. its just because you love your wife and children and want to be loved by them too much, you always try your best to earn money and creat a good life for them.

yes, im also a person who want to love people and be loved by them. pitifully i cant walk into the correct road before. i always feel the society is so dark,and the people is so snobbish and evil.

but now i have changed this kind of thought. i always say im rather optimistic,although i still need be patient to wait for the proper time.

i know you want me to state my view frankly and honestly. oh, just wait for some time. maybe only can the fact tell you the truth.

loving people and being loved by people are the happiest thing in the world. youre a pride father as you say, so whenever your children love you at least! and you also say the reason your admire the china is partly because of the chinese family culturecarrying on the family line.

in all situations, the family members must be helpful and friendly each other. the parents always love their children selflessly, because the children are the extention of their life and the whole hope and spiritual and material sustenance. its just the chinese pure and simple religious belief.

oh, its just because i pay much attention to the marriage and family, so i cant marry and have children all along. since without family and children, i must find another form of family for me. so i regard the MLM international family as my new religious belief.

i think you should understand me a little till now,ok?

best wishes

jingfang



dear jingfang,

dont worry about my being angry with you. i cant be. i am proud of you. i am proud that you spoke up about what is in your heart and head. and because of this, i am beginning to understand you better. see, where most people see differences and use them to put up walls, i see differences as a way to learn more about people. i value and celebrate the differences between people. that is why i want to learn your thoughts.

i can now understand why you love MLM so much. i didnt fully realize it, and i am sorry that i was so blind about it.

thank you for sharing with me and showing me a little bit more about you. and dont ever worry about making me angry with you, i can never be angry with you or your thoughts.

love,

john